Nowadays, things aren't in black and white anymore. It is one thing for the girl to assume the role of the guy, it's another for both parties to like themselves and automatically assume the "We're in a relationship" role. The latter, which is my main concern, is in a very subtle way very dangerous ground to tread especially for the ladies. Characteristically, is the frequent calls, hanging out a lot as to suggest an item, so close to want to share any secret with and yet so far you are left plucking at rose petals - he loves me, he loves me not!!!
During my second year in School, i met a guy, Kunle and his chic, Jenny. They were such an item. Friends sometimes jester kunle, "Jenny how far?", while "how is our husband?" was a regular teaser to jenny from her girlfriends. Dinner dates every weekend, Shopping, excess care - if Jenny as much as sneezes, Reddington hospital will be receiving a patient shortly. He also appeared a jealous lover as he's always on guard even if she at the very least, gives a guy an almost full hug. Kunle had to be a man in Love. Or so i thought.
One fateful morning, she buzzed my phone and asked to talk to me in private without kunle's knowledge. Reluctantly, i agreed and on getting to see her, she broke down in tears, "Kunle broke up with me....". "you say what?", i replied shockingly. Apparently, she went to kunle's place uninvited and seeing kunle with another gurl, she starts to fume, but kunle calms her down, whispering gently, "Calm down, Why you dey vex?, I never asked you out, It's not like we were in a relationship or something.You have always been a very good friend". OMG, My emotions were playing a fast one on me as i wasnt sure whether to jump, laugh or feel pity!. "So u guys werent 'Official'...,Thats a long thing!", i continued.
Long story short, Spoke to kunle who confimed her story and says he's in a relationship now and that jenny is a good friend. Na Wa o!!!, "Friend" i find myself repeating the word but in a way, he was right. Shopping plus Dinner multiplied by excess care is not equal to a relationship.
Jenny has since learnt her lessons - Never Assume a relationship, if he hasn't told you - He likes you and he Wants a relationship, he is just a friend. Leave it at that. Life's too short for all it is.Heed now, or you'll get to third base before realising you're just a good friend!!!!
True but things are more complicated these days; you'd be amazed to find out that even after "goin official" there's still a huge possibility that u'd end up like Jenny (broken hearted and humiliated)after-all there was no third party the day he asked you out.
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